Guilt, Heart Ache and Guilt

Guilt, Heart Ache and Guilt

This past couple of weeks has been Baba’s half term, we have been working on the house and blogging and the business have been put to one side. But it is ok… I needed to step away. This year I struggled with Rhianna’s birthday, more 

Today You Should Be…

Today You Should Be…

Today you should be three But instead you are where you will always be Up in heaven where you have always been And we are here trying to make sense of something none of us understand Today we should be celebrating Having a toddler in 

Time Heals…

Time Heals…

When Rhianna died and we were in the depths of hell we were told repeatedly, time heals, just give it time. We are now three years on and they were all lies. Time doesn’t heal. Giving grief time doesn’t make it get better, it doesn’t make 

Dropping The Anniversary

Dropping The Anniversary

A week today is Rhianna Lily’s birthday A week today is Rhianna Lily’s anniversary For three years we have celebrated her birthday and anniversary all in one day. But we really haven’t Rhianna’s birthday / anniversary comes and we are so very touched with the 

Grief is Selfish – That’s Sometimes Good and Sometimes Bad

Grief is Selfish – That’s Sometimes Good and Sometimes Bad

Grief is very selfish In some ways that is good in others it isn’t Everyone has to deal with grief in their own way Everyone is different So it is good that there is no right and wrong way to grieve as no one does 

It’s Ok Not To Be Ok

It’s Ok Not To Be Ok

This last week I have struggled and I am not afraid to admit it. I have never been a sleeper, always prefer doing things late into the night rather than getting up early and doing things. But when Rhianna died, my sleeping became hideous, I 

The Month of Flowers

The Month of Flowers

Anyone who has ever read this blog knows what I think about March. It is a really hard month for all of us, and is one where we either sink or swim. And to be honest it really depends on the day, sometimes we sink, 

And March Is…

And March Is…

The month we should miss! I hate March, I hate the idea of February leaving I hate the feeling of March From the beginning to the end We start of waiting Then we remember Then we relive And then we get sad And then we 

Rhianna’s Birthday and the Teddy Bears

Rhianna’s Birthday and the Teddy Bears

In 25 days Rhianna is three. I have already blogged about the pain of having a child not here on their birthday and the pain of buying flowers here. Since I wrote the post we have been trying to find something for Rhianna’s birthday. Baba 

Breaking The Taboo

Breaking The Taboo

Baby loss is a taboo It is the unspoken about tragedy It’s the club none of want to be in No one envy’s you, everyone pity’s you But no one knows what to say To be honest I don’t often know what to say Rhianna