The Moment That Mattered
I could have written about a few moments that mattered in 2013, like Baba’s birthday, or starting school or even leaving preschool.
However 2013 can all be summed up in one moment, a moment that we never thought we would see.
When we told Baba we were having Rhianna Lily he leapt for joy, only to have that joy ripped away from him three weeks later.
This pregnancy we didn’t tell him, not until we were 32 weeks pregnant, and his little face lit up again. All he had wanted for nearly two years was a brother or sister.
He loves Rhianna but the most heart wrenching thing about Rhianna dying was Baba thinking he wasn’t a big brother. We then grieved for what Baba wanted. We had spent the last 18 months having our hearts broken watching our little man playing on his own in the house, doing things on his own when there should have been two of them. Most of the time it didn’t affect Baba but there were the occasional moments, like sibling day at school, and photo day when people had pictures taken with their younger siblings. These were the days that Baba got really upset.
The days that he missed Rhianna Lily the most, and it was heart breaking that he was so sad.
We had lost our daughter, but he had lost his sister, his playmate and it was something we couldn’t dare to dream to happen in the future, we couldn’t dream about him having another brother or sister, it wasn’t possible.
This picture is the moment it did happen, the moment that Baba went from being a sibling on his own, to being part of a twosome.
It is the moment that he first met Boo, the exact first moment that they saw each other and Baba’s face sums up everyone’s feelings in that room.
You can’t see Mr L and my faces, you can’t see my mum and my dad’s faces, but you don’t need to.
Baba’s face says it all.
He was so happy, he was so proud and he was so excited and he was no longer on his own.
And it is the most magical moment.
The beginning of happiness and not just pure hurt anymore. And every time I see it even 7 weeks down the line it still makes me cry.
It is the moment that mattered in 2013 for me.
The moment hope, laughter, fun and the journey of brothers began.
What was your special moment of 2013?
That is the most beautiful picture Kerry. It made me well up too xx
Thank you Carol xx
Kerry: what a beautiful post – you made me cry!!!! That photo of Baba with his perfect little brother is just amazing. Thanks so much for taking part, and good luck!! xxx
Thank you it is such a magical picture xx